… I’m reading Keep Your Love On! by Danny Silk, and it’s been more revealing in the last day, then I was ever prepared for. The buildup happened just in time for the fall, because suddenly it wasn’t just my wall that had a big hole in it, and it wasn’t just my room that needed cleaning out.
Unrealistic expectations, pressure, the reality of everything from hope to failures… toxins, it all fell at my feet in one emotional heap. At some point while I was gritting my teeth and hiding my face, trying to stop the tears from coming out and feeling my face get Warmer and redder by the second, I realized that this isn’t all on me. My name isn’t carved into this, so why did I sign for it?
At some point I learned that I was the fixer. I was the shelter. The safe one. And there is nothing wrong with this, it’s a gift. The only time it works against me is when I realize too late that there are things, too many things, I can’t fix, and even more that I can’t do all on my own. It took an interruption of control within my inner world, an accusation, and a tired hearts old fears, for me to begin to see a piece of what I need, and for me to break just enough to let some air in.
It’s a big enough hole, a window size exit that will be patched up at some point in the “near” future. But its presence in my mint coloured calm and my 9-5 reality, has shaken things off their sandy foundations.
“Sometimes it has to pour till you realize it’s been raining for a while.”
The truth is I’m no ones savior. I’m no ones definition of perfect. I can’t fix you, and I can’t fix me either. I’m not strong enough to carry all your expectations, I can hardly hold onto my own. What I can do is take the pressure off, stop signing my name where only your signature can go. I can breathe. I can let the interruption into my world be patched up by hands who know what they are doing, and I can let God handle my questioning heart.
I was made to love you, to hear you well and to listen to your heart. I was made with a voice that can ease your fears and voice my own. But beyond all of that I’m just me, someone going through my own mountains and forests filled with hidden quicksand… I’m someone who still needs to learn how to ask for help.
I can’t do this alone. I’ll help you carry yours, but I’m going to need you to help me carry mine. And understand that sometimes I may have to let go. I’m not God. Thank God.